Daddy Has A New Victim

I haven't been on here like I should be. My complete story will be one day but for now just an update.

They took my daughter November 7th, 2013 and she was returned January 7th, 2015.

There have been many twists and turn in the case since. CPS wanted to drug test me as someone (father) reported I smelled of pot.

CPS wanted to know if I was in a relationship as they have to make sure she is not around PEOPLE OF CONCERN. GAL said grandpa was a PERSON OF CONCERN yet she is allowed to be in the home with grandpa living there.

An assessment was done with 4 psychologists and 4 interns, it took 2 months, interviews, collateral, case info and psych evals. They recommended dad have a sex offender assessment, all parties be in counseling, neuro eval as father has closed head injury and supervised visits.
My daughter's counselors (2 of them) recommended supervised visits and so did the parenting lady.

A sex offender assessment was done (they mailed father the questionnaire to answer at home) and interviewd father. This man also recommended supervised visits. Father failed on the lying and manipulation part but the evaluator ignored that as he scored low in self esteem. WTH?! This man appeared in court unannounced in July and changed his recommendation. This man never spoke to my daughter or myself. He only spoke to the father and his attorney.
The judge handed her over for that weekend unsupervised and also 4 full weeks in the summer.

My daughter returned from a visit saying that she woke up and A#*@#* was not in bed with her. (A#*@#* is father's cousins 13 year old daughter). I saw this girl with him at several of the pick ups. She would sit in the middle next to him and my daughter on outside of truck. She would stay seated next to them when they left.
My daughter then heard her father and this girl upstairs in the loft of a cabin they were renting. She said there was a blanket on the floor, she heard dad remove his pants and they were making bumping sounds.
She also said at the girls home daddy would kiss her on the mouth and on her privates (clothes on) while she stood in front of him and he was sitting on the couch.
My daughter told the foster care caseworker this at an unannounced school visit. CPS was called and my daughter was interviewed at an advocacy center.
I asked if my daughter had to continue visits with an open investigation. The worker said yes as nothing was done to my daughter directly.
She did say if anything happens or dad says anything to let her know.
When my daughter returned from the very next weekend visit she had this to say - " daddy and I were lying on Hope's (gf) bed and he was rubbing himself." (she showed me and it was over his clothes) "He was moaning and then he started yelling at me to stop telling people that he does things to her, makes him lck his penis and she needs to stop." She then said the gf came out of the bathroom and looked at dad, he yelled to the gf "WHAT? it's my kid and I can tell her whatever I want!"

I reported this and my daughter was again sent to the advocacy center for questioning.

She is still being forced to see him and I have no results on the investigation.

I had court today. The judge ordered in July that I not move more than 25 miles away without his permission. He ordered my daughter to see a court whore counselor that has no relationship with her. My daughter does not trust her as her father says that he talks to the counselor.
That counselor closed the casein March and I took my daughter to a center that works with sexually abused children. The judge found out in July and forbid me to take her back. My daughter was disclosing to this woman and she was reporting it. Judge put a stop to that.
Today he wanted to yell at me as she has not attended counseling in last 3 months. She isn't but it is because the court order from last hearing in August was finally signed today and counselor would not see my daughter with out it being signed. The counselor would not see her as she was not sure how she was gong to be paid.
Father's attorney - who has been nothing but evil to me, who always went above and beyond lying for her client said "this has turned into a custody battle, I can not answer my clients questions about custody. This is no longer an abuse case. I want off of this." Does she knwo something about the ongoing investigation? She does family law, why does she want out?? She does date the sheriff, did he tell her something??
It was very strange to see her act this way.
The case is still open and pending on how things go with FOC/custody order and the investigation could close before the next review in 90 days.
Very little was mentioned about dad or my daughter's safety. It was very clear the judge wants her father in her life and short of a conviction - he will be in her life.
The focus as always is on me, not him and definitely not on my daughter.

She is almost home but not safe!

The assessment results are in. This team of experts spent over 6 weeks doing interviews, psych evals and talking to collateral. Her father  Jacob Sadro lied, manipulated the test, said inappropriate things and was angry. He said counseling is bullshit!
The team recommended a sex offenders assessment, neuro- psych evaluation and a child therapist to monitor Malia after visits with her father.
Malia disclosed to them and they said she could not be coached. She showed other signs of  being sexually and physically abused. She was over friendly which is a sign of caregiver abuse.
My results indicated that I did not appear manipulative. They did recommend I get counseling to help deal with possibly having to send Malia with her father. 
They recommended counseling for Malia to help with abuse and transitioning her back home.
Mr. Sadro's attorney said "You have won, let it go". She said this when we suggested having the assessment team come in to testify.
It may appear I have won. Malia still is not safe. DHS/CPS wants us to deal with FOC and family court to set up visitation with her father. NO! You removed her for me reporting sexual abuse. Now that we have red flags and arrows pointing to her father they want to end it.
Malia has not won. She did her part and now has disclosed to over 4 professionals. When will she be protected? When will her rights outweigh her abusers?

She is still their hostage

It has been over a year. I have played all their games. I watched them lie and manipulate things. They wanted to try to get to the bottom of her abuse through counseling. They didn't want it to be with her counselor, the one she disclosed to. CPS gave her a new DHS counselor and when she got another job, they gave her another DHS counselor.
The father told my daughter that this counselor was his counselor and he talks to her. She will not talk to this woman, she can not trust her.
When they realized counseling was not going to get to the bottom of it, they agreed to a family assessment. I begged for this sin last December and said I would pay. NO!
The assessment began in September. It was very thorough. A child psychologist interviewed my daughter and she disclosed. This psychologist is an expert in her field, a college professor that has written may books on sexual abuse. She has spoken to groups and has been involved in extensive research. Her credentials are outstanding.
My daughter, her father and I were all separately given psychological evaluations by another psychologist with outstanding credentials.
I was interviewed by a woman with a masters degree that has extensive knowledge on this topic. The father was interviewed by a man with a Ph.D.
There were about 12 people interviewed as collateral. The interviews were done by interns that all have a masters degree. There was also a legal professional on the team.
It took over a month to get the results. It was beyond obvious that there were numerous red flags about dad. It was recommended that he have a sex offenders assessment and a neuro-psych evaluation done. 
Father was caught lying throughout the tests and interview, he intentionally tried to manipulate the tests. He stated counseling was bullshit and it was determined he would not be a good candidate for therapy.
So with this amazing team of experts shedding light on the dangers of the father, DHS, judge, GAL are still on my ass for coaching. Mind you in July DHS wanted her returned to me UNSUPERVISED. I refused as nothing had been resolved in counseling and the assessment hadn't been approved. I would not jeopardize my case and be alone with my daughter. I would not give them any chance to use coaching against me. I could not ruin this for my precious daughter.
In early October DHS again wanted her returned to me unsupervised. They had no concerns about me and I had been appropriate the entire year. I again refused as the assessment was not complete.
In court last week DHS brought up one concern. My brother in law - the foster dad had told DHS two things. 1 - Dad talked about court to his daughter (we have gag orders on this) 2 he also mentioned in all fairness and to remain unbiased that I had said something about dad during a skype conversation with my daughter.
We did not have a hearing, they all met in chambers. Nothing was mentioned about the results of a $5000.00 assessment done by experts. There was no mention of the father getting in his daughter's face about court. The focus was on me coaching, me talking to the foster mom (my sister).
Now father wants 15 people interviewed, cops, pool team members, girlfriends, court whores etc.
He is grasping to cover his pedophile ass and the judge - DHS are helping him.
We live in corruption, we are corruption unless we make a stand against it!

What CPS has done to my son.

This is a quote from my youngest son - he is 23. The system stole his little sister, his God daughter, his favorite person in the whole world. ~

"For my entire life I have lived in my little alternative reality where people are honest and good, however for the past 6 months I have been really challenged as I've come to the realization that there truly is terrible corruption, abuse of power and just plain "bad" people in this world. It's incredibly disheartening."

This is what CPS/DHS and our family court system has taught him about our world.

5/13/2014

Frozen with Fear

How are you suppose to function and live life like you once did?
How can you get up in the morning full of energy and determination?
How can you ever trust anyone or anything again?
How can you stay focused or enjoy the little things in life?
Please tell me how to have faith, strength and hope when your child has been ripped out of your arms.
She has been stolen from you and her entire family.
Not only is she gone but you fear her returning more than the fear you had when they threatened to take her.
If and when she comes home to me she must also return to her molesting father, unsupervised.
The court, CPS, DHS and all those involved are completely ignoring her disclosure.
The entire focus is on co-parenting.
One can not co-parent with a molester. I can jump through all of their hoops in order for her to return.
I can not stop him from further molesting her and he will.
She can continue to disclose but I can not report. They have made up their minds that she is being coached.
So unless he is caught red handed molesting or abusing her, she will continue to see him and be harmed.
Tell me how do I live life with this hanging over me ? I can not protect my innocent daughter.
How do I get over the pain of knowing what her future holds?
How do I get over knowing I did everything I could and no one will believe her, no one will help her?
I have reached out in every direction for help.
The government, courts are corrupt. They protect pedophiles. They have no respect for children.
Children are a commodity.
My child is a pawn in a money game. She is left vulnerable and unprotected by the agency put in place to protect her.
Once your child is ripped from your arms, you will never trust the world again.
Once they give her back you will be tortured until she is an adult. You will be fully aware of what is happening to her yet you are bound by invisible chains that prevent you from saving her.
The government and courts are your life now. They own her and they own you.
She is their prisoner and you are both gagged. Your word is not respected.
The pedophile and his father's right supercede your child's rights.
Her right to a happy, healthy and loving life have been stripped. 
You as a protective mother will find yourself frozen with fear.

Part 2 of Beginning of the Nightmare

Court - he wants full custody. Why does he want to take a 2 year old away from her mom?

I met a man and dated him. I was unaware he was a sex offender. Once I learned this told him we could not have a relationship. He never lived with me and he was never alone with my daughter.

A few days before the custody hearing CPS was called to my house with allegations I lived with this sex offender. The referral was unsubstantiated. There was no proof he lived here. He had his own home and I had witnesses to attest to the fact he was not involved with me anymore.

That referral was a horrible blow to my custody case, it wasn't true but it was a great shield for the real sex offender (her father) to hide behind.

She was two and a half, barely knew this man and was forced into regular visitation.

He had access to her without me to protect her and I watched my happy, confident and beautiful daughter crumble in front of my eyes.

She had slept all night in her room, door closed and the lights off. Within weeks she needed the door open and then the lights on, eventually she was in my bed terrified to be alone.

She was fully potty trained but after a few weeks began to wet herself and was back in diapers.

She started saying odd things like "ho ho gets my poopy, ho ho hurts my poopy". It changed to "daddy hurts my booty, pupa hurts my booty". She took a medicine dispenser one day when she came out of the bathroom with her pants off. She laid on the floor and tried to put in in herself. 

I knew something was horribly wrong yet she couldn't find the words or was afraid to tell me.

Her father began visits in February 2010.

She cries when she must go there. The friend of the court blames it on "transitional" issues.

She throws things, hits me and her sister, she talks like a baby. She has nightmares and cries out for me.

My adult daughter(a counselor) her husband and my adult son have all noticed the behavior changes. They have heard her bizarre disclosures about ho ho.

They tell me I must call CPS and they will help.

That was a huge mistake.

By June of 2010 I knew I had to call CPS.

CPS set up an appointment at a CAN. My daughter would not say anything during her interview.

They decided that they should do a physical exam. Nothing showed up but the physician told me over 90% of cases show no physical signs unless horrible trauma.

While we were in the room waiting for the doctor my daughter pinched her finger in a drawer. She cried and said it hurt. The woman asked her if anyone ever hurt her vagina. She replied "My daddy". The woman asked her what daddy did. "He hit it" and then she demonstrated hitting herself with an open hand and her index finger.

This disclosure was not in the CPS report. The police officer also made light of it.

She was not quite 3 and this was not good enough for CPS to substantiate sexual abuse. It was enough for them to start building a case against me though.

In July she is still acting out and saying strange things. I caught her rubbing herself with a golf tee and one of her toy rings. She made comments when i would tell her it's not safe to touch herself - "daddy touched my vagina" - "daddy shows me his booty" - puppa hurts my booty".

I again report to CPS her comments and behaviors. Father accuses mom of "putting shit in his kids head and he will take a poly". He has never taken one yet!

I start my daughter and myself in  counseling. I am hopeful that we can find out what is going on with her. I need help to deal with this horrible situation.

By October her fear has escalated. She begs not to go to her fathers. He forces her out of her car seat kicking, screaming and crying out for me. My heart is broken. I can not protect her.

Her father does not know his parenting time schedule and would show up when he wasn't suppose to. He would call police and have them come to my home. He was wrong and lying but was trying to build a case against me for denying parenting.

Police would submit these reports yet would not ask for my side of the story. In my town if you call the police they get the info for the complaint and therefore it it true.

November 2010 My daughter returns with a horrible bruise below her butt. I am in another county when it is noticed. Her brother in law asked her what happened. She said "Daddy spanked me". The police were called, pictures taken and case referred back to my county CPS. My daughter told the caseworker the next week daddy hit her but when asked where she pointed to a different body part then where the bruise was. Again CPS disregarded this, a child of 3 that was probably hit in many areas did not or could not explain this.

She continues to disclose "daddy hit me with a stick" - "do I have to go to daddy's? - "daddy ties me up puts me in a box"

She has trouble sleeping and is wetting herself.

I and other family members have called CPS. The amount of referrals is now being used against me. CPS said father and his parents want to pursue "false allegations" against me and CPS will help them. They contact the local prosecutor. He has known me and my family my whole life. He told them he would not go after me and they would have to go to another county to press charges.

The referrals are rejected for the most part.

July of 2011 My daughter is in the tub. My adult son is sitting in the room with her and I am right outside the bathroom. My son came out to tell me I needed to hear what my daughter told him.

She told me "grandma puts a toothbrush on her privates and it feels good, daddy spanks my vagina".

When she got out of the tub she complained her vagina hurt. My son and I took her to the E.R.

She told the R.N. the same thing and she called CPS.

My daughter had a yeast infection that the officer said must be caused by bubble baths.

My daughter told the officer her dad spanks her but again that was disregarded.

CPS stated in report I was somewhat emotional and that I voiced concerns about father being violent. CPS states he has no criminal record. You can not get his criminal record for some reason yet police were called out numerous times for domestic violence and property damage. I know this as the women he did these things to told me and their family members also backed them.

Ironically two days after I called CPS about dad a call was made saying I was living with that sex offender.

CPS has every right to take my child if this were  true. I respect that they despise sex offenders. I guess they only despise non bio ones. CPS told my mom "dad has rights, we have to protect his rights". My daughter has rights. She has the right to be safe. How dare CPS protect her sex offending father?

More complaints were made and rejected.

more to come of this nightmare........

The Beginning of the Nightmare Part 1

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