Witch Hunt for mom

I have video clips of dad being verbally abusive, discussing inappropriate topics and using inappropriate vocabulary with his/my daughter. My attorney viewed them and said they are horrible. He asked me to send them to my daughter's new DHS "appointed" counselor.
Mind you, this new counselor was not informed that my daughter disclosed sexual abuse. DHS only told her that my daughter had excessive sexual knowledge for her age. My daughter's previous counselor called her and shared this information with her. Why would DHS leave out that important information?
As my attorney suggested I tried to email them to her but was given two incorrect email addresses. I then called and asked to speak to the counselor. I was given her voice mail. I left her a message. The next day I called and left a message with the receptionist. She did not call me. I then put video on flash drive and drove an hour to her office.
When I arrived I asked if she was available. The receptionist pointed to her and said "yes she is right here". I asked her if I could speak to once she came to door. She said yes. I introduced myself, told her I had tried to email and talk to her. I explained that my attorney wanted her to view the videos.
She was very cool and distant. She said "I have only met your daughter a few times. I want to get an unbiased opinion. I don't see any need to view these and will have to talk to DHS to see if I can".
She would not touch the envelope. I was not allowed to leave it with her until she found out if it was okay per DHS.
We were in her office which is the same office my daughter started at 3 years earlier with a different counselor. Nothing changed, it still was a cold dark room. I told the counselor my daughter started there 3 years earlier, gave her a minute of her counseling history. I explained that I wasn't trying to influence her but felt this info would help her with my daughter's issues. I was there 5 or 6 minutes. I was calm and respectful.

Previously, I asked DHS worker if this counselor was a child play therapist or sexual abuse expert. Her response was "She is a licensed therapist." It was obvious by the lack of toys, posters, sand table that this was not a child/sexual abuse therapist.

Today my attorney received an email from DHS attorney stating that I was border line harassing the counselor. My God, can you say set up? I was doing what my attorney told me to do. She could have called me and informed me that she didn't wish to communicate with me. She was inconsiderate but my stopping in there then became harassing. Do I live in America? Is it my daughter? Do her or I have any rights?

He responded beautifully to her email. He made several strong and valid points. He called DHS out on this case calling it a witch hunt. He mentioned PAS and how informed he is on the subject and nothing about my case points to that. I have great respect for him and thanked him for believing my daughter and me. I told him it was a reassuring feeling after having so many previous attorneys and other professionals not believe or try and help us.
He has never seen a more severe injustice in his 20 years of practice. This is the worst criminal and CPS investigation of an innocent child. He has never lost sleep over a case before mine.

My older children are beyond tired of this game. We have been nothing but quiet, agreeable for almost three months. In the last week or so they and I have made calls and wrote emails to DHS. They have made no attempt to get her with relatives or sibling visits. Now that we have formed a persistent front, we are harassing DHS. All of us. Per DHS attorney's email. They would like us gagged. They would like to continue to paint me black.They spent months targeting me and not the molester. They want to continue uninterrupted, by me and my family. The second they were questioned it turned into harassment. This is insultive to my children. They have only requested what their little sister is entitled to per DHS guidelines.
My children are being kept away from her for no reason. No one has interviewed, investigated them. No one has spoken to their employers, neighbors, professors. It is a witch hunt on them as well.

Last week I was told my adult children could not contact DHS as they were not on the case. I immediately drove to DHS and left a paper giving DHS employees permission to communicate with my children. Later I received a call saying that I had to fill out a proper release form. I said that would be great to please email me that and a caregiver form. She wanted to know why I needed that. I said so that my children can pick their sister up and do things with her. She would not email them, said I could pick up at her office. I said you want me to drive to DHS when you could email them. She said yes or that she could bring them to the "pre" family team meeting and we could fill out together. I finally gave up and told her I would figure out how to get them. (there is no such thing as a pre family team meeting)
Yesterday I drove to the office to fill these forms out. I assumed no big deal, get them from receptionist, just common forms. The receptionist did not know what forms I was talking about and called supervisor. She informed me she was on the phone and would be a while. I asked if the caseworker was available, she was also busy. I said I would wait.
I told my older daughter that was with me to record conversation if things became an issue while we were in the car.
The supervisor came out. I asked about form for release. She told me to go to a website and read about confidentiality and that even if I did fill out form that they do not have to talk to my children. I said that was fine but I would really like to fill it out anyway. She said the paper I dropped off earlier was adequate. I said but your worker told me it wasn't. She replied that she told the worker that and it was in fact adequate.
I then asked if I could get caregiver forms for my children and mom. She asked why I wanted them. Again I told her so they could take their sister on outings. She told me that we aren't there yet. That there was no need to do that now. I said my children will all be home this weekend and can fill them out. She informed me that the judge said visits are only between the parent's and my daughter. I said I have the court order and it does not state that. She said people twist the judges words. Excuse me, it's very clear what the order says. She would not give me the so called form. I later found out there is no actual form but rather a list needs to be submitted with names, birthdays etc. to do a background check.

This is just another way for them to delay things. They will take months to do these checks. I taped it. I wish I taped the conversation with the counselor. I must tape or have everything in writing. The lies, deception, the witch hunt continues.

The GAL. Same story, do not call me. I do not speak to the mother, you have your own attorney. This GAL is the person that has great influence on what is so called "best" for my child, yet does not wish to get to know me. He refuses to speak to me.

I can go one with all the various forms of hunting, blind siding, persecuting and manipulating going on. It would take hours and it's all too bizarre for me to grasp and I am living it. The pain it causes at times is almost unbearable.

Thank You Card to the Judge - exhibit 5

Dear Judge XXXXX,
Thank you so much for allowing my family to visit with xxxxx (sister) for Christmas. For me, it had been 77 days since I had seen her. Her being placed in foster care has been really hard on all of us and we are very thankful you allowed us visitation for the holidays. I appreciate your willingness to keep our family united for xxxxx's sake.
We had our visit with xxxxx on December 27th at the xxxxxxx
. We played games, ate and exchanged gifts. It was really great to see my baby sister after so long. My entire family is very close and so I know it was beneficial and comforting to xxxxx to get to be reunited with us. It was truly the highlight of my entire holiday. Anything you can do to ensure my sister gets placed with family and/or that we are allowed more visitation would be really great! I would be so thankful!
Thank you again for making our holiday a memorable one! I can't imagine not spending time with my x year old sister and Godchild. 
Thank you on behalf of my entire family! :)
xxxxxx xxxxxxxxxx

It was a hand written, decorated card and he enclosed a picture of our entire family!

Big Brother's letter to DHS

Ms xxxx

My name is xxx xxx. My x year old sister is in foster care. I have been trying since early December to get sibling visits set up so that xxxxx can see her older sisters and older brothers. I have emailed (foster care worker) several times and now her supervisor a few times with no response from either. I am shocked that two professionals would just completely disregard emails from a concerned brother of a little girl that they are working with. Caseworker actually forwarded my email to DHS attorney who said she would not be responding to me because I am not "a party in this case". I believe that I deserve at the very least a response to explain why sibling visits might not be allowed or accommodated.  I just want to understand what harm it poses to (my sister). I believe it would be very beneficial seeing as though she was pulled out of her home, school, and extra curricular activities. She should have one thing that can serve as a comfort for her.

Although I am not a minor, I was a minor living at home when (little sister) was born. I've been in college for the past x years coming home every other weekend and every  school break possible. I am very close to (sister) she is my Godchild and baby sister. It has been very difficult that I have not been able to have contact with her.

Thankfully, Judge XXXXXX  brought up and allowed a two-hour supervised holiday visit for (little sister) to see her grandma, siblings, and nieces & nephews. I could not believe the extent that (care worker and supervisor) were willing to go to argue with the judge against allowing a x-year-old little girl to see her family for Christmas. I asked (caseworker) about the possibility of a holiday visit prior to court when she was at my home visiting my sister, (a minor), and she said "there will be other Christmases" and I could write (my little sister) a note. As if a note could replace a holiday celebration with family. She was very insensitive and cold.

We had our Christmas visit on Dec. 27th and it was wonderful! It was really great to see (my baby sis) give her a hug, and tell her that I love her and miss her very much.

I am begging you to consider allowing (my sister) additional visits with her siblings. We will go wherever, whenever, and follow any rules put in place by DHS. We also understand that any visits would be supervised by DHS. I firmly believe sibling visits would be in (my sister's) best interest. I am writing you on behalf of my 4 siblings and myself. We miss (my baby sister) dearly and I can not imagine how much she is missing us. 

I am also begging that you talk with (foster caseworker and her supervisor) about ignoring emails. I can't imagine a government office having a policy that says, "hey, if you don't feel like responding to this person or dealing with this issue.. just ignore it!". It's incredibly disappointing.

Please show me that DHS can be a resource, not a roadblock. 

I've attached a family photo from (my sister's) birthday party in August, as well as, a photo from our Christmas visit. We are a very close family and we love spending time together. 

Thank you for taking the time to read this email. I hope to hear from you very soon.

She lost an entire family & life.

The day they took her was awful. That morning when I dropped her off at school she didn't want me to leave. I can still see her face, her expression, maybe she knew what I feared. I regret not staying for a few minutes or an hour. It was my last day with her. If I only could go back to that morning and hold her tight.
The only thing they told me was to be at court 15 minutes early. Yet I knew they were going to take her. They threatened to do it 2 years earlier. They said "If you report again we will put your daughter in foster care".
I believed them. Her father said "Good at least she won't be with her crazy mom.
When I say they, it  wasn't CPS it was a woman from a child advocacy center that made the threat. UNBELIEVABLE!
CPS had already made their threat about 6 months earlier. They even offered to help father if he wanted to go after having me prosecuted for false allegations.
When the hearing was over CPS asked where my daughter was. I told them. She said we will be picking her up in 15 minutes. She was at an activity with children and parents present. I tried to be calm, I couldn't. They were ripping her away from me and her entire life.
CPS woman noted in report that I was emotional. Are you kidding me??? You are stealing my daughter. You gave me no time to prepare her, my family or myself. You gave me no options to keep her with me, to try and place her with family. You pretended and led me to believe for months you were investigating her disclosure. That you were investigating her father for exposing her to porn, exposing himself and making her lick him. Instead you were building a bogus case based on outdated and inaccurate information. Some were out right lies!
An officer was standing by when I arrived to see her. I spent my 15 minutes with her my heart breaking into a thousand pieces. She had no idea what or why. I couldn't begin to explain. I just held her and we cried. I told her I loved her and would do whatever I had to so she could come home. I told her she did nothing wrong and this was not her fault. I just kept hugging and kissing her. I didn't want to let go.
While I was with her I sent some family members to get a few things for her. They grabbed her favorite blanket, some pajamas and a few favorite toys.
I watched her get into the vehicle with the CPS monsters. I hugged her one last time. Tears were streaming down our faces. She looked afraid. She asked if she could bring her puppy.
The officer there lied and said she was just going for a few days.
I went home and lost it. I cried. The pain was like that of a death of a loved one. I would tremble,crumble and felt like throwing up. I couldn't breathe. Family and friends called, stopped over. For days this continued, some family drove all night to be here. It was similar to going through a funeral process. Shock, crying, talking, questioning and doing it again for days. I walked around in shock for days. I had flashbacks to the morning when I dropped her off and didn't stay. I had flashbacks of our goodbye. I had flashbacks of her running to me from the bus, smiling and jumping into my arms. The entire family was numb, scared and in total disbelief. It was a nightmare. We had each other to hug, sob and console. She was alone.
I packed clothes and toys for her the next morning. I wanted her to have familiar things with her. I asked CPS if they could get them to her. She didn't think so. My daughter did not see me again for 6 days and that is when I was able to give her those things.
Since she was taken months ago. Since then she was allowed one visit with all of her siblings and her grandma.
Foster care has already returned many of her belongings. She has too much stuff there.
She has nothing. Her baby dolls, teddy bear, minion and books all came back. Her bedroom looks the same as the day she left. It is full of babies, high chair, cribs, bunk beds, changing table, games, puzzles, books, barbies, polly pockets, strawberry shortcake. The basement has her kitchen set, make up table, keyboard, more dolls, totes of stuffed animals, dress up clothes, etc.
The living room has her barbie house and tinker belle table and chairs.
Her older sister is here. Her older brother stopped in for a long visit today. Grandma stops in every few days. Aunts, uncles cousins call or stop over. They all are heart broken. They all feel for her and worry if she is ok. They worry if she is afraid or lonely.
We did Thanksgiving and Christmas without her. We celebrated birthday parties without her. I attend church and cry. I try to stop the tears, keep my pain hidden. It's too hard, the music, the families, the words. I always took her to church and she sat on my lap, crawled around and squirmed. It was a special close time for us.
I never tell her when her siblings and I have an event. I can't bear to let her know she is missing out.
Her dance classes go on without her. I doubt even if she comes home she could participate in the recital. She missed too many classes.
She no longer attends religious education. Her aunt used to drive her and her cousins there after school once a week.
She has been pulled from everything she has ever known as safe and fun. She has been pulled away from an enormous family that loves her and supported her.
I sit here with my older daughter, my son has left for the night. Every room in this house is a reminder of my daughter and her life here. It is deafeningly quiet and empty. It is hard for her older siblings to visit. It is painful beyond words. Her 21 year old brother told me how he stays busy all day but at night the tears run.
There is so much pain in this house.
There has to be so much more pain in the house she now lives at. She sleeps alone there. Nothing in that house is about her or her past. She is isolated, she is confused. She fears what she can tell me at our visits. She is always looking over her shoulder to see how the supervisor is reacting to her comments.
She no longer feels safe, she can no longer trust.
She is a little innocent girl that told of her abuse and she is paying the hugest price. "EVERYTHING" they stripped her of everything.
She begs to come home. It breaks my heart every time I leave that I have again let her down.
I hope and pray she will understand some day why this happened. I pray she can heal. I pray she can somehow regain her family and her life.
I was warned to not report. THREATENED yet I had to. All CPS needed was for her to disclose. She finally was old enough or brave enough to talk. Will she ever trust to talk again?
When will her nightmare end?
Why does society say we need to teach our children to talk, don't keep secrets? Society believes that someone will help these children if they talk, society has no idea the real truth.
Society should talk to my little girl. They can find her in a little town far away from me in a little room, a little empty room. Alone.

She is 6, leave her alone!

First they rip her away from her family, mom, school, dance, religion and her previous counselor. Then after they have her completely isolated they make agreements with her.

DHS, CPS and foster care are manipulative and controlling evil people.

My daughter said to the supervisor in the hallway "What NOW??!"

I wonder what that is all about.

I know they have an agreement, as my daughter told them she didn't say anything bad to me. Lady said of course you didn't we have an agreement.

She told me one day that she can come home when daddy and I stop fighting. I said we don't even talk, who told you this? Immediately supervisor was in the room stopping the conversation.

My daughter asks every time I visit if she can come home with me. She asks why I have to leave. They say it's time to switch, time to see daddy and she again asks "Why?".

"I can come home in 90 days mommy, maybe."

Why are they allowed to tell her anything, yet I am not?

Does she even know how hard I am trying to bring her home?

They sent 3 garbage bags full of toys, books and notes that she had with her. There is not enough room for her to have these things from home. She hardly has anything from here. I cried as I went through the bags, the note from her big sister and grandma. Her mommy and me book that has a photo of when she was little. Her 2 favorite baby dolls.

I cry every day and night, my heart breaks. I have my children, siblings, mom, friends and other protective moms to talk to, cry to and hug. She has no one.

I called foster care lady to see if my 15 year old could get a 2nd visit with her sister. I was told I could not call on her behalf. Her father can call. He is my ex, father of my 1st 3 children. Only he can call, only he can take her for visits. Her older siblings can not.

Why are adult siblings denied visits?? Ombudsman office said sibling visits are for young children.(Their handbook does not specify age, only that siblings are to have visits) My daughter is 6, she does not understand why age is a factor. She only knows she feels alone and abandoned.

So now she is alone and the only people allowed to influence her are the ones that took her. Will they manipulate her into doing or saying what fits their agenda? 

If they truly pay attention to visits it is obvious she wants to come home. Home with me.

They boss and meddle when I am there. They are not the mom, it is my time with her. My hour and a half, leave us in peace. Let her be happy for her three hours a week.

First she has suffered three years of physical, emotional and sexual abuse from her father. Now she must suffer the abuse of DHS, CPS and Foster Care.

Will she ever heal??

She is such a sweet angel and they will destroy her.

"I wish I could come home mom."

"I love you mom."

"I miss you mom."