She has a police officer sit down the road when she visits the father's home. He lives with his bully father and mom.
She told me that grandpa(bully) and the judge have a relationship. She is not sure what it is yet.
During a supervised visit she watched father and daughter. Daughter squirmed and pressed into father's genital area. He never stopped her.
She brought this to the attention of the supervisor who was oblivious that it was inappropriate.
Supervisor did say that I spoiled my daughter, I was always bringing new things to the visits. (I always bring things from home to give her a connection to her previous life here) My daughter has a lot of toys, crafts, games, books, dolls etc. I always take a homemade healthy meal for her.
The woman told me the problem with my situation as a whole is that children in foster care are not spoiled. They do not have a huge loving, intelligent family sending emails and calling DHS. They send cards, notes and pictures to their little sister. All of these activities are being used against me. I am forcing my family to go along with my need for control and my need to keep super daddy away from his daughter.
Even the fact that I put her in counseling is being used against me. My daughter has been is counseling since she was 3 to help her and I deal with her behavior and disclosures. My attorney said if I were coaching I would be an idiot to put her in counseling as she would eventually tell that I made her say those things. DHS sees it as abuse because there is nothing wrong with my daughter, she does not "NEED" counseling.
In the past the supervisor has raised hell to other parents for not bringing healthy food or activities. I am viewed as doing this spoiling to make her say lies about her molesting dad per the supervisors opinion of me.
The supervisor made a point of walking across room to tell this woman that my visit she was watching was not normal. It was - we play, do crafts, read books etc. My daughter has had moments of whining, lashing out but I always redirect her. This supervisor made a point of saying I never help my daughter with reading. LIE! We read all the time. Sometimes she reads or I do or we read ever other page. Wow I am a horrible mom. I raised 4 children that graduated college, I think I have the reading issue under control.
I have an hour and a half visit, reading is not the bulk of it - so fucking sorry!!
The supervisor made no attempt to communicate during the father's visit.
This woman told me that foster care worker is clearly on father's side. The supervisor called foster worker to say that the woman was concerned about visit with the father.. The foster worker sent an email to this woman wanting to know what concerns there were about father's visit. The woman said caseworker wants to know so she can tell father how to change his inappropriate behavior. Caseworker was not concerned about what was said about me during my visit.
The woman will not tell caseworker, she wants to watch father at another visit. She knows he is going to fail at correcting it without someone telling him how to.
The woman feels as all those involved are completely biased. They are all on father's side. She forbid me to talk to anyone from DHS. To be very careful what I say in counseling.
I am not allowed to be alone with my daughter for 1 minute. She had surgery and of course he was there putting on a show. He never took her to a doctor once when he had her. She needed help with her gown and I went in bathroom with her, shut the door. He was pissed and told my sister who was supervising that. So she told me to leave door open when I changed her to go home. He stood there watching us. My daughter was clearly upset. I told him she wanted some privacy. He said "well you were in there".
The woman told me he admitted he watched his 6 year old undressing. She told me I made a mistake and I should have let him change her, maybe then DHS would see his "ODD" behavior.
She told me that father will be looking for other victims as he has had no access to his daughter in over 4 months. She thinks he will move on to his girlfriends son. She wants to speak with the boys father. She has a lot of good ideas that I can not share for fear of tipping father off. Scary shit.
She knows that grandpa and the judge have connections. She told me grandpa said that if I ever step foot on his property he will kill me.
At the end of the day what is disturbing is that they are so busy being biased that no one is listening, no one that has the power will help this little girl!
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