I haven't been on here like I should be. My complete story will be one day but for now just an update.
They took my daughter November 7th, 2013 and she was returned January 7th, 2015.
There have been many twists and turn in the case since. CPS wanted to drug test me as someone (father) reported I smelled of pot.
CPS wanted to know if I was in a relationship as they have to make sure she is not around PEOPLE OF CONCERN. GAL said grandpa was a PERSON OF CONCERN yet she is allowed to be in the home with grandpa living there.
An assessment was done with 4 psychologists and 4 interns, it took 2 months, interviews, collateral, case info and psych evals. They recommended dad have a sex offender assessment, all parties be in counseling, neuro eval as father has closed head injury and supervised visits.
My daughter's counselors (2 of them) recommended supervised visits and so did the parenting lady.
A sex offender assessment was done (they mailed father the questionnaire to answer at home) and interviewd father. This man also recommended supervised visits. Father failed on the lying and manipulation part but the evaluator ignored that as he scored low in self esteem. WTH?! This man appeared in court unannounced in July and changed his recommendation. This man never spoke to my daughter or myself. He only spoke to the father and his attorney.
The judge handed her over for that weekend unsupervised and also 4 full weeks in the summer.
My daughter returned from a visit saying that she woke up and A#*@#* was not in bed with her. (A#*@#* is father's cousins 13 year old daughter). I saw this girl with him at several of the pick ups. She would sit in the middle next to him and my daughter on outside of truck. She would stay seated next to them when they left.
My daughter then heard her father and this girl upstairs in the loft of a cabin they were renting. She said there was a blanket on the floor, she heard dad remove his pants and they were making bumping sounds.
She also said at the girls home daddy would kiss her on the mouth and on her privates (clothes on) while she stood in front of him and he was sitting on the couch.
My daughter told the foster care caseworker this at an unannounced school visit. CPS was called and my daughter was interviewed at an advocacy center.
I asked if my daughter had to continue visits with an open investigation. The worker said yes as nothing was done to my daughter directly.
She did say if anything happens or dad says anything to let her know.
When my daughter returned from the very next weekend visit she had this to say - " daddy and I were lying on Hope's (gf) bed and he was rubbing himself." (she showed me and it was over his clothes) "He was moaning and then he started yelling at me to stop telling people that he does things to her, makes him lck his penis and she needs to stop." She then said the gf came out of the bathroom and looked at dad, he yelled to the gf "WHAT? it's my kid and I can tell her whatever I want!"
I reported this and my daughter was again sent to the advocacy center for questioning.
She is still being forced to see him and I have no results on the investigation.
I had court today. The judge ordered in July that I not move more than 25 miles away without his permission. He ordered my daughter to see a court whore counselor that has no relationship with her. My daughter does not trust her as her father says that he talks to the counselor.
That counselor closed the casein March and I took my daughter to a center that works with sexually abused children. The judge found out in July and forbid me to take her back. My daughter was disclosing to this woman and she was reporting it. Judge put a stop to that.
Today he wanted to yell at me as she has not attended counseling in last 3 months. She isn't but it is because the court order from last hearing in August was finally signed today and counselor would not see my daughter with out it being signed. The counselor would not see her as she was not sure how she was gong to be paid.
Father's attorney - who has been nothing but evil to me, who always went above and beyond lying for her client said "this has turned into a custody battle, I can not answer my clients questions about custody. This is no longer an abuse case. I want off of this." Does she knwo something about the ongoing investigation? She does family law, why does she want out?? She does date the sheriff, did he tell her something??
It was very strange to see her act this way.
The case is still open and pending on how things go with FOC/custody order and the investigation could close before the next review in 90 days.
Very little was mentioned about dad or my daughter's safety. It was very clear the judge wants her father in her life and short of a conviction - he will be in her life.
The focus as always is on me, not him and definitely not on my daughter.
Make a poster or "sandwich sign" asking people to pray for your child & for Judge "john doe" or whatever his/her name is. March around the courthouse and tell people that you want the court to protect your daughter.
ReplyDeleteI did something like this when I lost custody of my 4 kids. I eventually regained custody.